Q is for: Quiet Introspection
This post is part of a series I’m so excited about: “The ABC’s of What I’ve Learned as a Medium and Intuitive Healer.” This is my full-time career, and I am thrilled for the opportunity to share what I’ve learned!
*I say Spirit to mean God, the Universe, the Cosmos - I use these phrases interchangeably for all enlightened beings who help us. I use “greater Spirit” or “Spirit” to mean everything out there, taking care of and managing in here: Them as a group and concept. You may choose to substitute the word “Spirit” with Jesus, Archangel Michael, Allah, Lakshmi, Kuan Yin, The Universe, The Cosmos, or about a billion other names, and it doesn’t matter. Spirit is all this and so much more than we can ever understand. They don’t care what you call them so long as you give them the same respect they give you. I work with these beings closely, as they are an integral part of my practice and career. It is a relationship I heavily encourage everyone to build, as it enhances every aspect of our physical lives and spiritual practice.*
Quiet Introspection
Slowing down is hard. Being quiet is harder. Being alone? …That’s impossible, right?
Our global society makes it nearly impossible to be alone with ourselves and sit in the quiet with our inner voice. Almost nothing could be more unfortunate, because almost nothing is more important! While a meditation practice can revitalize life, that’s not even what we’re talking about here. We’re not going quite that far. Mostly here we want to talk about the inability to hang out in quiet introspection and be comfortable with our own thoughts.
Our thoughts aren’t there for no reason! Even the most annoying or painful thought is trying to inform us of something. Our feelings inform our thoughts, and then our feelings and thoughts together inform our behavior. So if we don’t know what we are thinking or why, it’s also hard to know what we are feeling or why we are behaving in certain ways. We definitely don’t know how any of these is affecting the others. Quiet introspection as a purposeful activity aligns all of these factors. Our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors can come together and become apparent to us only if we are willing to see them.
It’s easy to mistake time alone with time alone in quiet introspection. Not all rest is meaningful rest, and not all quiet time is equal. There is a way to use quiet introspection to our benefit which is almost mathematical and which can make anybody feel better on purpose. There is also a way to spend time alone in the quiet driving ourselves figuratively insane. This possibility is what most of us fear, and this is why most of us refuse to even try to make the time to be alone with our thoughts. For most of us, just those words, "Being alone with my thoughts," is cringe-inducing.
When we feel safe, whole, and happy in our own company, it opens us up to an entire world which can only take place through this quiet introspection. It also opens us up to talk to our guides and higher self about things going on beyond this plane. A lot of my time alone isn’t really time alone anymore - I spend a lot of my time alone talking to my guides about my physical life, but also about them and the universe and how to bring more of that into my physical life. I love asking questions and receiving answers that are right up on the edge of my knowledge or understanding. I love talking to Spirit about things I know I will never really understand from this human perspective. I will never stop trying to know as much as I can (and I will always admit that I don’t believe a human can know very much). Time alone in the quiet is my biggest aid in learning as much as I can from my spirit guides and higher self.
I understand that for some of us, time alone in the quiet is more difficult because of poor mental health. I used to really struggle with anxiety and depression, and years ago, I was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder. Each of these made it almost torturous to be alone with my own thoughts. A combination of cognitive behavioral therapy and my spiritual practice really saved my life, and now I would be depressed without my time in the quiet. I think it's important that we're all realistic about where we're starting and what we're working with, and say honestly that starting place doesn't stop us from becoming healthy. The most helpful thing a therapist ever said to me was that there was nothing fundamentally wrong with me, and I just hadn't been given all the tools I needed to be well. Now, my practice works a lot like this, and the compulsions that used to feel like they were stealing my life from me are nonexistent. Everyone can learn to be well by learning which tools they need to implement, and this can come from time alone in the quiet.
Everyone’s relationship to the quiet is heavily linked to their relationship to their own thoughts and their inner voice, and how comfortable or unpleasant these things are. This is why cognitive behavioral therapy and a spiritual practice align so well and can really change one’s life, separately or used in tandem. Each is designed to help one feel more comfortable in their own skin, and more importantly mind, and each is really done by aligning one’s feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
As much as therapy helps, as much as contextualizing a situation by reading more about it and learning as much as possible helps, time alone with one’s own thoughts cannot be replaced by any other activity, and is hands down the most important in terms of achieving any level of wellness.
Why Quiet Time Alone Is So Important
Integrating Trauma
I’m going to start in one of the rougher places, but as an energy healer, it’s one I see and work with often. Most of us are repressing, rather than integrating, our trauma. This is as physical as it is emotional and spiritual. I have cited this book before and likely will again - the book The Neurobiology of “We” by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel goes into how those afflicted with PTSD have bodily flashbacks because a traumatic incident is staying in the area of the brain associated with short-term memory. It is not being integrated into a long-term memory, which would help the person process the trauma and at minimum not be brought back as if they were physically still experiencing it. Dr. Siegel is a neurobiologist and a practicing and researching psychiatrist. He was inspired down this path when, as a young man, he found out neuroscientists did not know why veterans or assault victims experienced flashbacks as if their body were still experiencing the trauma (and no one was working on it). He created a process called integration therapy, which takes place through talk therapy. What it does is bring trauma from the short-term memory center of the brain where it cannot be processed, and moves it to the correct area, where it actually becomes a memory, relieving one of flashbacks. (I could not recommend this book highly enough in general, but especially to those interested in psychology, attachment styles, PTSD, neurobiology - it’s brilliant!)
Energy healing accomplishes something very similar to Dr. Siegel’s integration therapy. It facilitates the release of trauma through trauma recovery - or reintegration (cue Severance theme music). Repressed trauma, whether it comes from grief, assault, estrangement, emotional alienation, or any other of billions of sources, sits heavily in the body and affects every move we make. It sits heavily in the energetic systems affecting what we manifest, and as just mentioned, it sits very tangibly in the wrong section of the brain. When a painful memory resurfaces, we feel triggered, and out of attempted self-preservation, we usually do anything we can to shove the memory back down and ignore it. This is actually a detriment, because as much as we feel that it is keeping us safe by removing vulnerability, it is forcing the feeling to sit even more prominently in our experience, trying harder to inform us that we have not processed it. Any kind of trauma must be processed for it to stop affecting us on a day-to-day basis. For those of us for whom our trauma is heavily present, it’s almost impossible to imagine that this could be the case. As someone who has worked on this myself, and who has helped hundreds of clients work through the same, I promise that it is possible to live a beautiful, trigger-free life, no matter how much pain, violence, and harm is in our past.
That can only come from a willingness to process trauma as it makes itself apparent. A painful memory is not arising for no reason and it is not intended to hurt or trigger us. It’s arising so it can be processed and moved in each body and energetic systems, dramatically lessening or removing its influence. This is really the first and most important reason why quiet introspection is a vital part of our lives. The overwhelming majority of us are walking around with significant amounts of unprocessed trauma, and it affects every move we make, but it also affects our partners, our friends, and most importantly, our children. Generational trauma sits in the body just as much as physical trauma. Any trauma we are holding, our children hold it, too. This is why it is so important to ensure releasing it is part of our regular life. This comes from allowing memories and thoughts about them to arise in quiet introspection.
Work & Career Vibrations
Each of us has one overall frequency: the rate at which our personal body and auric field are vibrating. This frequency is made of thousands of individual vibrations (usually - sometimes hundreds, but this is odd), and the number is different for everyone! Our frequency and each of our vibrations can be broken up into four categories: physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual. These are also heavily tied together! Say you are in a very spiritual relationship, well then you have physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual vibrations all related to that one person and how you feel about them.
This is important to bring up when talking about quiet introspection, especially in regard to our work and career life. There is possibly no other area of life which pulls on more strings and affects more of our vibrations, so it requires a lot of thought and effort (which we usually refuse to give it).
Each of us typically has a minimum of about 50 vibrations relating to work. But it isn’t just work, it’s: how work pays (or doesn’t pay) our bills and takes care of us physically, how our job makes us look to society and partners or potential partners, how our job makes us feel about our place in society, how we feel about our coworkers, how we think our coworkers feel about us, I can't even begin on the complicated vibrations surrounding our boss and how we want them to like us even though we hate them, how we feel about what we would rather be doing with our time, how we feel about how our company treats us - these are a few of so many examples it's impossible to list. One who owns their own business or one who works alone still has many vibrations relating to work, and they’re typically covering at least the physical, emotional, and relational, but many of us also have spiritual vibrations involved with work.
Many of us have taken on the idea that our life at work is just our life at work, and it doesn’t matter. But it affects every aspect of our frequency to such a significant degree, each of us would do well to get in a position we can at least stomach. If we hate our job, if we dread going in every day, if we feel sick about it, if we hate the people we spend most of our time with - we simply cannot live a good life. It is energetically impossible to spend so much time this way and feel good when we go home. Which means once again we’re not showing up as our best self for our partners, children, friends, or anyone else. Which makes us resent our coworkers and job more as we feel it subconsciously. Which creates a vicious cycle which pulls more and more vibrations down. There are a lot of people whose work situation, one way or another, makes them outright disgusted or depressed, and this is not just affecting them when they walk into that building.
If you feel like work is killing you, work is killing you. Almost nothing could be more important than adjusting and finding a situation that’s energetically comfortable. We cannot come to this or any conclusion about our work situation without spending time with ourselves in the quiet and recognizing the truth of the matter.
Winning Our Inner Battles
One who knows how to be alone with themselves is a significantly better piece of the whole, as they’re just more pleasant to be around. One who cannot stand their own thoughts is fighting a lot of personal battles, and those battles inevitably become battles for their children, friends, coworkers, and partners, etc. When we fight our inner battles, amazingly, outer battles vanish. When we fight our inner battles, we recognize that everyone who ever antagonized us was only reflecting our inner work back at us.
I have not been in a fight or argument in so long I have sincerely lost context for the feeling. I know this probably makes you think, "Okay, I hate this asshole." (I used to roll my eyes at Pollyannas like me too.) But I no longer understand the purpose of having an argument, and I don't believe there's anything which be can be solved with an argument which can't be solved another way (or that anything can be solved by arguing in the first place). I refuse to engage in something that even looks like an argument may be beginning to take place. No part of me finds that my worth is tied up in “winning” a conversation. I know that if I engage, myself and the other person will leave feeling worse. (This doesn’t extend to things like debates and I will still tell someone if I disagree with them, I just don’t care enough to fight about it.) Actual arguments or out and out fights have no place in my world. Because that's my belief, I’m not on those vibrations, and it’s impossible for me to run into them. I have not had anything that could be considered an argument in over a year and a half. My partner and I have been together for over a year, and have never had a fight. This is possible for everybody by deciding and declaring what they will and won’t accept and what they will and won’t engage in.
I used to carry as part of my identity that "I'd fought for everything I'd ever had and would fight until I died," and I really took pride in that. Though it made me feel awful and alone and I really hated everything and everyone I knew whom I didn’t give birth to. (I didn’t know at the time, but it was why I also manifested partners who felt the same way, like the world was a giant fighting ring.) Now, younger me is unrecognizable to me, and I don't take pride in when I fought for things, but when I learned to stop. I love people I’ve never met, and I sincerely hope everyone finds what they need on their journey. When someone really upsets me, I don’t think, "I hate this asshole," I think, "I hope this person gets the help they need." That came from recognizing the difference between what actually feels good and what doesn’t. (And learning to see bad behavior as a sign of someone suffering and not of malice.) Fighting or wishing someone ill doesn’t feel good. Arguing with somebody who isn’t going to change their mind simply doesn’t feel good. Pretty much everyone who spends any time alone with themselves learn this, learns that every external battle is a reflection of a not-yet-faced inner battle, and watches the exterior battles completely dissipate.
Stable Relationships
Quiet time alone also leads to significantly more stability in relationships. Many of us consider love to be spending every second in each other‘s faces, breathing only air that came out of the other’s mouth. But, to be our best in a relationship, we need to be our best on our own. If we lack self-love and self-worth, we will put those problems on our partner. Our self-worth and our self-love becomes a perceived deficit of our partner's, and it becomes, "Why can’t my partner love me enough to make me feel worthy?" Though they could not possibly. It's not that they won't, they literally can't. It isn’t about them, it’s about us. We have to know how to validate ourselves before we can expect anybody else to validate us. This is simply energetically true, whether we like it or not.
According to Spirit, when our partner upsets us, the best thing we can do is take a step back, make an agreement to each go sit by ourselves for a half an hour, and really think about our side, what we are saying, and what we are justifying. Then look at their side, and take a moment to imagine what this must feel like for them, and how that may be leading to what they are saying and what they are justifying. The chances are we really don’t know their side of it very well and haven’t listened. We cannot know what we feel about an argument if the argument never stops. If we spend too long in an argument, which nearly all of us do, we do not have any time to process it, because we are so overloaded with anger and the vibrations of frustration by the time we finally force ourselves to walk away. This makes it impossible to ever see the other's side, or even our own with any clarity. Then what do we typically do? Go talk about the argument more with our friends or family, without having taken a moment to understand it, yet. When we are on the vibration of not feeling heard, we cannot hear ourselves either. Our higher self is inaccessible to us from that place.
Time alone strengthens every relationship. Quiet introspection helps us focus on the only thing in a situation which we control: ourselves. No amount of screaming at a partner will change their behavior or control them in any way, nor should we want to change their behavior or control them in any way, like we don't want anyone to control or change us. Their path is theirs, ours is ours. If we cannot stand a person, we should leave. If we love someone, we should take quiet time to understand how to be a good partner to them, and ask that they do the same for us. It's a great precedent to set!
Assessing Parenting
This is also true and significant for parenting. A parent and child are typically in different generations, but even if they are very close in age, the difference is significant enough that they will view things through a different cultural lens. Parents need to take a significant amount of time in introspection regarding whether or not we are encouraging, supporting, and empowering our child per what is realistic for their generation or culture. I have lost count of the number of parents I have had tell me that no one ever supported them, so they simply don’t have the energy now to support their own children. This is desperately unfortunate, because one is essentially saying that they know outright that someone paying attention to them and being there for them could have changed their life, but because no one did, they are now going to continue the cycle of harm on their own child - this is generational violence. We’re putting more of our own trauma into the world if we don’t correct it, even though we wish someone would have helped us through ours.
A parent must take time in introspection to see what is working, what is not working, and create and reassert boundaries on a consistent basis. Appropriate parenting changes as a child ages. With my entire heart and soul, I wish I had come to cognitive behavioral therapy as well as my spiritual practice and energy work as a career so much younger, not for me or to replace the miserable years I spent in my former career, but for my son. My son was about twelve when I started to become who I am now. Now he is an adult, and my ability to support him through his life is not over of course, the job never ends, but my ability has significantly shifted. While I supported my son financially and mentally for the first twelve years of his life, I did not support him spiritually and I can now see many ways I was not enough emotional support either. A lot of this came from my filling my time to the brim so I did not have to look at my own depression, anxiety, or obsessive compulsive disorder. And very truthfully, much of this came from the feeling that if I acknowledged how sick I was, I could not possibly be a good mother. I’m honest about this because I know so many parents who need help find themselves in the same position. Years of quiet introspection have made it so these things are not hurtful to me any longer, and I know I can use them as a teaching and learning tool and encourage parents to get the help they need for their children.
All I can do is know that I don’t want to feel that way in the future, and continue to support my son now as an adult in every way I can. When I have clients approaching parenthood, I can gently remind them that their child needs all kinds of support they may not have considered yet. Physical and financial support are vital, but so is emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual support. This cannot come unless we know ourselves and our children very well. We cannot give someone what they need unless we know what they need, and that typically has to come from knowing what we need (and most of us have not scratched that surface). This is why those of us who are unstable in terms of supporting ourselves should think hard before passing that instability onto a child. Every bit that we don’t process for ourselves, we are also not processing for our children. Quiet introspection makes one a better parent in every case.
Much-Needed Liberation
Many of us, in at least one regard of our life but usually more, feel incredibly stuck. There is at least one area in which it is clearly impossible to move forward. In every case in which we feel stuck or stagnant, our higher self is doing everything they can to tell us how to get out of that situation. A need for liberation is one of the worst vibrations we can put out, and it affects everything we do. To the point that, if one is quiet and spends even a few minutes alone, their higher self will essentially be shouting at them about how to get out of a low-vibration situation. Most of us ignore this advice and tell ourselves that we don’t hear it. Or we ensure we are never alone or quiet so we never have to hear it.
I am not immune to this even though I teach it - some days I nail it, and some days I don’t. All any of us can hope to do is nail it on as many days as possible. Some days, I cannot fathom taking just one step forward. Some days, I am emotionally exhausted by how many steps forward I still have to take in areas I just want to be further along already. So on every day that I can see the next step clearly and I have the resources to take it, I do my best to do so. We really can’t ever see the next step of the path clearly without time in quiet introspection and connecting to our higher self and the bigger plan, so many of us remain stuck and feel like we’ll never be free.
Well-Informed Change
Many of us avoid all change as if every possible change is disastrous and will ultimately lead us to ruin. A lot of clients tell me they refuse to meditate because for sure if they spend time in the quiet, they already know exactly what advice they will get from their higher self and spirit guides, and frankly it isn't advice they want. Hearing the advice means they would have to make the change. And, you know, no thank you. I know I am guilty of this in certain areas of life more than others like everybody is. We are definitely more comfortable changing some things than others. When we make quiet introspection a purposeful activity which does not frighten us or make us feel intimidated, we realize that our higher self’s advice to change things in our lives also comes with clear reasons.
Our higher self would never ask us to make a change that would hurt us. Even if the steps we have to take are steps we won’t like, or that will hurt or make us feel sad in the short term, it is always for the purpose of long-term prosperity and wellness. Our higher self gets nothing out of our being miserable - all they want is to meet their life purpose, to heal their trauma, and to move our plot and theirs forward at the same time. We have the same goals as they do. We have to see them as allies, and not adversaries.
When we don’t want their advice, we tend to tune them right out. Or, more accurately, we stay on such a low vibration they can't communicate with us clearly. This means we will stay in low-vibration situations for significantly longer than we have to, pretending we don’t know the answer already. If we listen, our higher self will tell us what to do, and immediately afterward, they will tell us why. They will explain how their advice will make our lives better, they will explain how taking these steps will ultimately lead to space cleared and less time spent in grief or depression. They will explain to us in every case why their advice is what it is, and they will make us feel loved, held, and supported through any changes we need to make. Their point is encouragement and empowerment. They do not want to hurt you, even when they are asking something very hard of you. Time alone in quiet introspection makes this very clear.
Psychic & Intuitive Gifts
It’s not relevant for everybody, but for those who want to practice on their psychic or intuitive gifts, they will do well to understand themselves, their frequency, and their own energetic baseline. More or less every psychic gift has to come from understanding the difference between ourselves and an outside stimulus. Those who have not spent any time in quiet introspection do not know who they are without any influence. If we constantly have company, we are part of so many energetic exchanges, we cannot tell the difference anymore between which energy is ours and which belongs to those whom we know. Often we can’t tell the difference between what we believe and what the people around us believe. This isn’t a criticism, and many people‘s lives really depend on spending a lot of time with other people. Especially those who spend constant time with others need to take time alone to cleanse and properly remove others' energy from their systems. This is especially important for anyone who wants to connect to Spirit and know themselves as a spiritual being.
We can’t process energy that doesn’t belong to us, and we can’t process our own energy if we are bogged down by others' or shoving our own energy into those whom we know to avoid it. Each of these things tends to make psychic or intuitive activity impossible. The more time we spend alone in the quiet, the more our team can work on engaging with us, talking to us, breaking down blocks between themselves and us, and reminding us of past-life gifts that we just need to tap into again. It’s also where we can get our best ideas for the books we need, a show we need to watch that could lead us somewhere interesting, a class we need to take - these ideas are there! Our spirit guides and higher self are always trying to lead us to the next thing that could take us somewhere new and exciting. We can’t hear them unless we listen, and we can’t do that unless we spend time in the quiet.
Making More Time for Quiet Introspection
Five minutes per day is better than an hour on weekends!
There is nobody who cannot commit to five minutes per day. No matter how busy someone is, they can spend five minutes right when they wake up, committing to being quiet and listening to their inner voice. Amazingly, someone who commits to five minutes finds that they easily begin to commit to ten. And then fifteen, and then eventually this is a way of life and they can’t believe they ever lived without it. To make time, one just has to make time. We make time for everything important to us, whether we say so or not.
Something I suggest a lot is that one learn to use their transit time to their benefit. If we would normally listen to a podcast or music, try a quiet drive instead. Rather than read or scroll on one’s phone or compulsively fill the empty space if we take a Lyft or train to work, embrace the empty space. I find that quiet time as a hobby tends to replace other hobbies as a favorite, and one is naturally more and more excited about it.
One who works a lot can still take a five minute break from work, even if they have to leave the building or lock their office. The more stressful or exhausting one’s job, the more this is necessary. In my former job, I used to regularly lock my office for five minutes at a time because I had to shut out outside noise, or I was not going to be able to survive, is sincerely how it felt. Shutting out outside stimuli (including things like the phone or computer, checking emails does not count as alone time) and just breathing connects us to the reality of a situation, the reality of who we are, and the ability to get through the rest of the day with a lot more peace and clarity. The more stressed we are, the more important it is to sit down, and reassess, realign, and redirect.
One who does not make time in the morning or throughout the day must make time before bed. The reason I don’t recommend this is because by the end of the day, we usually don’t have any resources left. Resources are an extensive concept and I wrote a whole post about them here, but essentially: we need physical resources like food, sleep, and safety so that we can have emotional resources like thoughts about our own wellness and emotional intelligence. We need to have both of these so that we can have relational resources which are required for anything from minimal conversation to serious relationships. We need to have all three of these in order before we have room for a thriving spiritual practice. Imagine being given one hundred credits per day, and then spending forty on worrying about safety, fifteen on being annoyed at how poor sleep was last night, thirty on absolutely hating our coworkers - you can see how by the time we’re home and in bed for the night, there often isn’t a lot of us left to give to quiet introspection. By that time, quiet introspection is likely to just turn into sleep. One really doesn’t have the wherewithal to actually dig through a thought. But, it is better to do this at night than not to do it at all. If we devote a few minutes to ourselves at night with enough regularity, often we will still find it to be a pleasant enough activity that we will then move it to an earlier part of the day when we can enjoy it more, so I recommend this if nothing else is possible. (If you’re a night person switch this so it makes sense for your schedule!)
Don't Let This Get in the Way
Scrolling is not the same as introspection! Not all quiet time is equal. Checking email or Instagram or scrolling through Reddit does not count as quiet introspection. It barely counts as time alone and often is not quiet at all. Every now and then, one who’s doing this may get lucky enough to zone out and approach a vibration where their higher self can talk to them, but this is rare and an exception, not the rule. Most of the time, scrolling on our phone should be considered a social activity, as it doesn’t connect one to their inner voice.
One of my favorite intuitive teachers, Caroline Myss, talks very candidly in one of her books about how she realized at one point that she had been teaching other people how to build their daily practice for twenty years, and then she realized she didn’t have one. This happens a lot to intuitives, and especially working intuitives. Those of us who push on others that their daily practice and time in the quiet is the most important thing, we are usually the fastest to lose that practice and stop making time for it, sure we don’t need it because we are already done. We are never done, no matter how far along we are. No matter who we are, it’s important to be reminded if we are struggling to be alone with ourselves.
Spirit really doesn't like it when people use family as an excuse to spend no time alone, because people who have families should feel more obligated to spend time alone. (Not spend more time alone, but we should feel more obligated to make some time for ourselves, because it makes us better to our family.) We simply cannot be as good of a parent or spouse or partner or anything else to anyone else if we do not know who we are, and we cannot know who we are unless we spend time alone. Our time alone is for our family, to be the best we can for them. When we spend more time alone, we can ensure that during the time we spend with our family, we are actually present. Then, because we enjoy it more, we find ourselves spending more time with our family and loving it. The opposite of a vicious cycle - it becomes a positive feedback loop.
Same with work! We will never be our best self in our career if we believe that our career is the reason we can’t take any time for ourselves. No matter how busy we are, we can make time for five minutes of peace and quiet. I find no matter how busy one is, they have time to go out, or watch TV, or date, or insert the important-enough thing here. This isn't criticism - we all have things we are willing to make time for and things we are not. (I watch hella TV and a lot of it is straight up trash [I call it doing research and character study 😂] so I will never judge anyone for anything! The activity isn’t the problem as long as we also spend time in meaningful activity.) We tend to only say we don't have time when it's something we don't want to make a priority. No matter how busy someone is, they have five minutes per day. It is not a matter of making time, it’s a matter of making something a priority and believing it matters.
Just start! So many people swear they’re going to start tomorrow and tomorrow never comes. There is no better day than today to just start. A lot of people have success with starting on the first of the month, and setting a timer for one minute. On the second of the month, two minutes. On the third of the month, three minutes. You get the picture. Most people can do this up to thirty minutes per day, and thirty minutes per day isn’t even necessary! One who spends even five minutes alone in the quiet every day will have their lives completely and utterly changed by it.
Thanks for reading! I'd love to hear about your meditation practice or quiet time and how they've enhanced your life. <3